Caught In the Rush: Javanese wedding organizing and everything in between

A few weeks ago, I was asked by my sister to help out at her wedding organizer. As free as any final year student could be then, I accepted. It was not until the wedding date that I began to regret my decision. Being a wedding planner is tough, but Javanese wedding organizing is on another level altogether. Let’s just say that, aside from having long series of rituals, a traditional wedding requires more patience, dedication, and manpower than conventional ones.

I am quite experienced in event organizing, but organizing a wedding just took me by surprise. In a wedding, a person can have multiple tasks at hand at the same time—everything is in a rush, and you need to get everything done quickly. And as my sister once said, event organizing can be considered easier as everybody is well-versed with his/her own specific tasks, and the length is not as long as a wedding. A Javanese wedding can go on for weeks. It can be rushed, of course, but the time frame might fill in days from dawn till midnight.

The job requires any wedding organizer to have a strong set of stamina, to hold out for days. There had been stories on how brides go on collapsing on their wedding days because of fatigue—wedding organizers do not have the luxury to collapse, no matter the circumstances, though they have to go on standby earlier and clear up later than the happy couples. I got extremely sick on the first day of the wedding after catching a virus, I was burning up, yet I was also on the job—no slacking off!

For a wedding organizer, mannerism is the outmost importance. No matter how sick, tired, or annoyed you are, you cannot look as though. Smiles, politeness, friendly gestures, and formal attires are a must—and for some people it seems to be hard work indeed. Simply said, I love being surrounded by people with professional mannerism.

My sister asked me to be a freelance assistant in her wedding planner, like, period. But, I don’t know—wedding organizing is just not my forte. It could never build up into the excitements I got from being in PR nor accommodate my longing to write and read as journalism does. It can be a great alternative, however, to gain some allowance while working on my final thesis.


Why does everything in Jogja seems to be small in amount after I got back from Jakarta? That includes salary standard as well.


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